Practicing Positive Self Talk | Clarksville TN Boudoir

We all get get it … you know, that negative, nagging little voice inside your head? That little person that always has something to say to bring you down. When you listen to the inner monologue inside your head, you may be surprised at how hard on yourself you can be.

Well I’m here with 5 tips on how to tell that little voice to shut the f*ck up!

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5 ways to practice positive self talk!

Positive self-talk promotes positivity throughout our inner thoughts. When we practice it, it makes a huge difference in how we feel about ourselves, other people, and life’s circumstances. When we speak to ourselves with compassion and love our confidence rises, we become happier, and are able to navigate stress easier. Doesn’t that sound AMA-zing!

TIP ONE: BRING AWARENESS TO YOUR THOUGHTS

The first step in reframing your thoughts is to listen and be aware of them so you can better understand them Listen for words like “always” and “never” that indicate a thought that you’ve had for a while. Once you are aware you can start reframing your mindset.

TIP TWO: CHALLENGE YOUR BELIEFS

Remember, not all your thoughts are true. Don’t just accept what you think just because your mind goes there – your thoughts don’t define you. Try to make it a habit to replace criticism with praise. Challange your thoughts:

  • Why is your mind going to that place?

  • Is what you’re saying 100% true?

  • How does the thought make you feel?

  • How would you feel if you didn’t have this thought?

  • What can you choose to think to go towards that positive feeling?

Remember, setbacks and mistakes are normal. You don’t have to beat yourself up about them, you can reflect on what you can approve the next time around.

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“Whatever you believe about yourself on the inside is what you will manifest on the outside."

TIP THREE: CHOOSE ONE THOUGHT OVER ANOTHER

To avoid a downhill spiral of negativity, you can start by disrupting old thought patterns. Choose to put a positive spin on a challenge you’re facing.

  • I get mad at everything turns to: I’m in full control of my emotions and I am calm and patient in every situation.

  • I’m no good at this turns to: What am I missing? I’ll tackle it from a different angle

  • I never do anything right turns to: I am powerful and can do anything I set my mind to. What can I do to get this right?

TIP FOUR: CHECK YOUR ENVIRONMENT

Your environment can have a big impact on the way you talk to yourself. How are you supposed to practice positive self-talk when you’re constantly being reminded of the negativity that surrounds you? Whether it be people, a job, close friends or family. Some easy ways to check the energy that your environment brings you:

  • Cut back on tuning into fear-based news, TV, talk shows, etc.

  • Clear the clutter in your house (clear space = clear mind)

  • Surround yourself with people who motivate and support you

TIP FIVE: PRACTICE IT DAILY

The last and most important tip…make it a habit! Make positive talk apart of your daily life. The truth is that we all feel negative emotions. Practicing positive self-talk doesn’t mean a negative thought won’t ever cross your mind again, it means when those thoughts do occur you will be able to recognize them and steer your self talk into a positive light.


You have the power. You are worthy. and YOU CAN DO THIS!

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